Emotional Affair Survey

Are You Having an Emotional Affair?




  1. Do you tell your “friend” things that you intentionally do not share with your partner/spouse?


  2.  Yes     
     No





  3. Would you be uncomfortable having conversations in front of and interacting with your “friend” as you do when you’re together if your partner/spouse was present?


  4.  Yes     
     No





  5. Do you speak to your “friend” about negative feelings and intimate details of your marriage but not with your partner/spouse?


  6.  Yes     
     No





  7. Have you ever lied or omitted certain details about your “friendship” with your partner/spouse?


  8.  Yes     
     No





  9. Would you be uncomfortable if your partner/spouse overheard a conversation you and your “friend” were having?


  10.  Yes     
     No





  11. Are you open with and do you talk candidly about the nature and extent of your “friendship” with your partner/spouse?


  12.  Yes     
     No





  13. Have you ever been untruthful, hedged or denied the truth when asked something about your “friend”?


  14.  Yes     
     No





  15. Do you have romantic, sexual, or erotic thoughts and feelings about your “friend”?


  16.  Yes     
     No





  17. Has anyone who knows you both expressed concern about the nature of your relationships with your “friend”?


  18.  Yes     
     No





  19. Do you behave differently (talk, touch, use different words and language) when you are alone with your “friend” then when you are in mixed company?


  20.  Yes     
     No










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