9 Signs of a Cheating Spouse

September 1st, 2016


1. Increased hours working and traveling

If their work pattern suddenly changes, this is sign. The unfaithful partner may spend a greater amount of time at the office, attending meetings, traveling to events and on business trips, all in an effort to cover-up or find plausible excuses to hide the infidelity.


2. Emotionally distant or depressed

The unfaithful spouse will often pull away from, not only their mate, but also the children, chores around the house, or even family events. They may appear aloof and disconnected from activities or issues involving the family. Often, they will show signs of distraction, melancholy, or have difficulty listening and remembering family discussions or events.


3. Requiring more privacy and autonomy

The cheating spouse may begin hiding credit cards bills, receipts, pay stubs, deleting emails, erasing the call log on their cell phone and caller ID. They will become “jumpy” and anxious when they see you near their cell phone or on their computer as text messages and emails are many times how affairs are discovered. The cheating spouse may also need more time alone, show interest in sports or hobbies that do not include you, and find activities to keep them distant and away from home.


4. Changes in appearance

Being attractive is a priority during thoughts or actions of infidelity. Hair-styles may change. Clothes and accessories are purchased. The unfaithful spouse will often spend more time at the gym, tanning, grooming, and working on their appearance for allegedly casual events like attending business meetings, running errands, meeting friends, or simply going to work.


5. Sexual activity changes

The unfaithful partner may suddenly shift their previous sexual patterns, i.e. wanting sex more or wanting sex less. They may also introduce different, more exotic, techniques in their lovemaking with their spouse, as well as a greater interest in pornography.


6. Unexplained energy and excitement for life

The attitude of the unfaithful partner will often become eager and thrilled about life without giving any reasoning or explanations for the change. They could appear inwardly happy, yet private about their secret joy.


7. Issues with control

The unfaithful spouse may assert control, feeling anxious and fearful about being discovered. Taking control is also a way to avoid the truth, thus avoiding their guilt. Or calling their faithful spouse “controlling” is also a method to keep the spouse managed and away from discovering the infidelity.


8. Being irritable and easily angered

To mentally justify the affair, the cheating spouse often becomes overly critical of their mate, super sensitive, impatient, agitated, and annoyed without major cause. Many betrayed spouses report feeling that their spouse began “picking fights” about the time the affair began. They may also use excessive sarcasm or easily find fault with their spouse.


9. Suddenly Expressing Dissatisfaction in the marriage

Statements like “I don’t know if I love you anymore,” or “I just need some time alone” are often expressions that accompany infidelity. They may also mention needing time away to figure out their feelings about the marriage.



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